At about 9 pm tonight, as I walked from my parking garage to my apartment with a last minute detergent purchase, I couldn't help but notice the basketball game that was going on next to me.
Again, 9 pm on the Sunday before finals, there had to be at least 30 guys both on and off the court, yelling out plays and grunting with each pass. You would have thought this was the NBA Finals on ESPN - oh but it was.
Between growing up with sports fanatics for an older brother and dad, and having a highly competitive boyfriend addicted to Sports Center, I have come to realize that any game that is played- is important. Every play will be recounted for the next 3 days, every shot will be praised, and the game will be glorified as if it were in fact that NBA Final, Super Bowl, World Cup, and so on.
As a girl this is a funny concept. I'm not saying females are uncompetitive & view sports as unimportant, for 6 years I laced up my track spikes with the intention to win, and did just that. But as far as a friendly game on the court goes, I would not take it to heart.
I believe this says a lot about men, and their yearning to succeed and earn respect. I bet if girls actually sat and watched every emotion going on during that basketball game, they'd understand a lot more about the male gender.
The guys making the plays are powerful guys. The ones that the guy sitting on the sideline wish they could beat just one time, to earn respect.
If you walk into an office, it is exactly the same thing. The CEO on the 5th floor in the corner office with his own bathroom is the powerful guy. The guy on the 2nd floor making copies (for some other guy) just wishes he could show his ideas straight to the CEO and pass up all the others, and earn respect.
In fact, I bet if girls did know this about men, relationships would go a lot differently. If girls let their guys know right away that he's her All Star, that she's his #1 fan, I imagine he'd be overjoyed. From then on I also imagine he'd do every mushy thing in the book for his girl to make sure she knew just how much he loved her, as long as he knew she respected him. There'd be so much love and respect in those relationships, the couples wouldn't know what to do with it.
Obviously this needs to happen with sincere intentions, any girl who just told her boyfriend that she respected him only to get him to watch chick-flicks with her, or do any other girly activity, has issues.
And this is what I thought about as a watched 30 college guys at 9 pm on a Sunday night, playing an intense game of basketball. Right before I texted my boyfriend, I mean All Star.
hey, thank you for this. as a dude reading this it is really an insightful truth about men. the tail of this coin is that when men feel as if they are too weak or too far from being able to step onto the court to BE the all star, we just sit on the sidelines... why fight if you can't win?
ReplyDeleteladies, encourage your man.
dudes, fight hard.